Because maternity leave is limited, as soon as the child is three years old and even earlier it is time to go to kindergarten. All psychologists, doctors, grandparents assure us that the child will be much better there, he will develop better, will have friends and will learn to communicate with other children. All this, of course, is true, and kindergarten is really a good thing. But in the beginning the child will be very difficult, as well as the parents.

And here comes the moment when you take the child to kindergarten . Time passes, this week has passed, and the next one for some reason does not make you happy, but rather upsets you. The child becomes almost unrecognizable . There is something wrong with him. It does not seem to be progress, but regress. The person has a regression in his skills, speech, games and actions. And it's in such a short time! For some reason, the child begins to fall into hysterical crises. He sleeps restlessly and does not eat and most importantly, he does not want to go to kindergarten. You part with tears, say that no one loves him, promise to be good, as long as it is not left in kindergarten .

It is possible in the first days to have the joy of communicating with other children , the attractiveness of the new environment to have an impact on your child . He is proud of the fact that he is already big and goes to kindergarten , like the older children . However, a little later he feels lost among so many children and feels lonely. And then the real drama begins, which you didn't expect, because everything looked good.

Why does the child not like the kindergarten? The child himself says that he is sad and wants to play with other children. Finally, it's like another child! It has not changed, it is behaving as it should. Don't worry, it's all natural. And it will pass soon. The child simply adapts to the new environment. It is undergoing an adaptation process.

What is this - ADAPTATION?

This is getting used to or adapting the body to a completely new environment. For the child, kindergarten is a new unknown space with new relationships.

Adaptation, as a rule, is difficult and is accompanied by many negative changes in the child's body. And these changes are invariably happening at all levels and in all systems. If you knew what was really going on in your child's soul and body when he first went to kindergarten , you would never have taken him there. In fact, the child is in constant and strong neuropsychiatric stress . He is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and is experiencing great stress.

Pay more attention to the child . The child is not sick , but is in a state in which he balances between illness and health. Something similar happened to you during your pregnancy. Being in this state is not good. However, you do not have to worry, this condition will soon pass.

Let's find out the reasons that provoke the child's stress.

In the first place - separation from the mother. The child from the first days is inextricably linked with you and his mother is the main thing that he has and will always have. And then the most beautiful and beloved mother suddenly leaves him in an unfamiliar environment, around unfamiliar children and no one cares about him.

Separation then fear, stress, maladaptation and all this can end in illness. All this is typical for a child with unfavorable or difficult adaptation. With this type of adaptation, as a rule, the process slows down and the child adapts to the new environment for months. Severe adaptation in children is noticed even in children's clinics. Therefore, it is better to send the child to kindergarten a little later, if, of course, you have such an opportunity, when the mechanisms of adaptation are improving.

How to help our child adapt to kindergarten:

  • To help the child get to know other children and educators, it will be good to take him for a walk with them several times. It is extremely important for your child to see how the parents come to pick up their children.
  • The first week it will be good to bring your child to kindergarten later, about nine hours, so that he does not see the negative emotions or tears of other children during the separation from their parents. It is best for the child to be fed, as very often children refuse to eat in an environment that is unusual for them.
  • The first and second week it will be good at the end of the morning walk for the child to go home.
  • In the third and fourth weeks, let the child spend the afternoon sleep in kindergarten. And when he wakes up, you can take him home, gradually increasing the time spent in kindergarten.

Don't make a tragedy out of going to kindergarten . All children sooner or later adapt , it is important to show patience and the right approach. And then your child and you will be happy.