How to talk to children about relationships between adults so as not to traumatize either their or their psyche? What words to use and how deep to dive into the topic? These questions sooner or later arise in all parents. In the following lines we will try to compile detailed instructions for adults .

At what age do children first have questions about sex, and how do we answer them?

It is advisable for parents to ask why the child is interested in one or another topic.

Interest in this topic in children arises very early, around three or four years of age . Parents do not always react to it because it does not always manifest itself in the form of a question. At this age, the child may seem to accidentally touch his mother 's breast or sit on his father's lap - so he examines the sexual characteristics of both parents. This does not mean that a sexual maniac grows up in the family, just that the child shows a healthy interest . But it is not worth it to develop and provoke. The child must be abducted, calmly removed from his knees. You could say, "You don't have to touch Mom's breasts. When he was little, she he fed you with his milk , and now you are big . ' This should not become a secret , talk about it neutrally, without embarrassment .

If the child asks a specific question , it is better to answer it precisely in order to satisfy his interest , without going into unnecessary detail. It is not necessary to burden the child with unnecessary information and to anticipate events. Details are not needed at this age, they can cause concern in the child . If you overdo it, you can create a feeling of fear or guilt that manifests itself in adolescence .

How to answer the question of how the child was born?

At the age of three to five, children are interested in where they came from, how they got into their mother's womb and how she gave birth to them. These are natural questions related to exploring the world around us. They must be answered openly and honestly, without hesitation. If the child has asked how he was born , there is no point in writing stories about cabbages, it is better to tell the truth, namely - that he was born in a maternity hospital. Thus, the child will form a real picture of the world from the very beginning.

In answer to the question of how the child got into the womb , the story of love between the parents can be told about how they met, fell in love, kissed and hugged, and as a result, cells appeared in the mother's womb, from which it formed the child. It is wonderful when the child sees in the family good relations between the parents , their care and tenderness in the relationship with each other. Preschoolers do not have to be told about birth and sex , at this stage it is enough to be told that people meet, get married and then have children.

What should we do if our peers in kindergarten or school have told the child about sex? How to answer the direct question of what sex is?

It is good to pay attention to the emotional moments related to the relationship

It is important for parents in such a situation to understand exactly what is being said to the child and, most importantly, to hear his interpretation . It is necessary to understand what impression she made on him, whether this information frightened him. You can ask him if he has any questions and try to answer them.

If the child has a relationship of trust with the parents and his questions , including those related to sex education , are answered delicately and in a timely manner, negative or distorted information from the side will not affect him much, as he will have his own position.

The question of what is the sex of children in preschool and primary school age can be answered that it is a close, close relationship between people who love each other.

How to talk about sex with school children?

It is better for adults to be prepared for such a conversation and to refresh their knowledge in the field of anatomy in order to be able to explain what the process itself is from a physiological point of view.

At this age , children develop various fears . If the little ones ask their questions out of curiosity, then in school -age children they are already connected with thoughts. It is advisable for parents to ask why the child is interested in one or another topic. Sometimes children worry that they will not be able to do something, that they will not do something right, they are afraid of pain . During such conversations it is better to pay attention not to the technical moments, but to the emotional ones related to the relationship. More on the topic see >> HERE <<.