The child is a first grader . On this day, the whole family prepares for a big holiday. New clothes, a bag, a huge bouquet - the first grader is accompanied by his parents, grandparents, going to school for the first time. However, the festive feeling quickly goes away. Because at school the child faces difficulties for which he is not prepared. During the first school year, problems arise in almost all children, but how quickly and successfully they will be solved depends on the parents.

The first days at school are very difficult for the child. It must get used to the new team, the new requirements and rules. Therefore, the child's behavior may be different from normal. The parents notice that the child cries a lot , is irritable, gets tired quickly and has difficulty falling asleep. During this period it is very important to ensure a calm and rhythmic life of the child . Quick morning school preparations can be prevented by teaching the child to prepare his bag and clothes for the next school day in the evening.

During this period, watching TV shows and computer games should be limited, because all this carries an additional burden on the child's psyche. There is no need to give up your child's usual daily routine, such as reading before bed, playing together and sleeping. You can offer children's games and activities that help relieve stress : drawing, singing, modeling with plasticine or modeling. Sports games and walks in the fresh air are also a good way to deal with stress.

All parents want their child to excel, and children also want to get only sixes. In practice, however, this is often not the case. There is no need to blame the child for the failures and tell him "that nothing works". Adult negative remarks increase the child's anxiety, instilling in him insecurity in his actions and abilities. It is necessary to support the child , to instill in him confidence that everything will work out, although not the first time. We must not forget to praise or criticize not the child, but the result of his activity . Instead of "Well done to you", it is better to say "How beautiful you drew (wrote or made)".

One of the questions often asked by parents is whether to prepare his lessons together with the child? Preparing lessons is a new activity for the child , and the task of parents is to teach their child how to do it properly. It is necessary to help the child prepare his workplace with the necessary materials - textbooks, notebooks, colored pencils, pens and other teaching aids . Then discuss with the child what is his homework and in what order it should be done. After completing the homework , the parent should check it out and help their child prepare his / her bag for tomorrow's school day. After a while, the child will begin to deal with their pets on their own . We need to make sure that the homework does not take many hours. The reason for this may be the child's inability to allocate his time, as well as various distracting actions: turning on the TV, fun computer games, playing with siblings.

It is necessary to talk to the child about school. These conversations can cover all aspects of school life: what the lessons were, what the child learned, who he befriended, what he ate for breakfast or lunch. Such conversations create confidence in the child that parents are interested in everything that happens to him, not only his progress in school, but they will also teach the child to be more attentive to events at school and beyond.

If the child has not gone to kindergarten and does not have enough experience in communicating with his peers, then at the beginning of the school there may be conflicts with his classmates . We need to talk to the child about the situation , and not look for who is to blame and who is not. A good way to teach a child to communicate is to play miniature scenes using puppets or puppet theater characters.

What to do if the child is afraid of school, angry with his teachers or classmates? First of all, you can't stop a child from expressing their feelings . It is necessary to understand together with the child what exactly causes the appearance of fear or anger in him and to discuss this situation. You can tell the child a story in which the character successfully copes with similar difficulties. Such a story will teach the child in a constructive way to resolve conflicts and overcome such difficult life situations.

Excessive anxiety and worry of parents is transmitted to the child, they affect his behavior and success in school. Therefore, during this difficult period of adaptation it is very important to maintain a calm and friendly atmosphere in the family. Try to spend more time with your child, choosing activities that are interesting for all family members: walks together, reading aloud or playing games together.

Each child has a different period of adaptation. So do not compare the child with his classmates, children of friends or acquaintances. It is better to pay attention to your child's success , celebrate his achievements and react sensitively to difficulties. Your careful and respectful attitude towards the child will help him successfully cope with the new role for him - the role of the student.

To help the first grader adapt to school faster, try the following recommendations:

  • Listen to your child . Don't demand difficult or impossible things. Respect his wishes.
  • Even if the child is not very successful and does not get everything, do not deprive him of love on which his successes and achievements do not depend.
  • Try to adhere to the principle of "optimal frustration" - do not be too strict with the requirements, but also do not commit to tacit approval.
  • Do not forbid the child to freely express his feelings and emotions. Do not argue with him for aggression or hysteria, but try to understand what causes them.
  • If you do not like the child's resourcefulness or behavior , criticize only his actions, which you do not like, but do not express severe judgment on his personality. Remember "that as you steer the ship, so it will sail". In the period of adaptation, criticism is better avoided.
  • Reduce the psychological burden. It is better for the child to spend the afternoon at home. Do not send the first grader to extracurricular activities or schools. His school is enough.
  • If you prepare the lessons together, take a break every 15 minutes. Give him the opportunity to move, to jump, to dance. The duration of lesson preparation should not be more than one hour without a break.
  • Introduce mandatory daytime sleep (about 2 hours), take walks, the duration of nighttime sleep should be about 11 hours, provide him with complete nutrition for age.
  • The TV and the computer strain the child's eyes. Therefore, you can watch TV or play on the computer no more than 1 hour a day. If the child is in a good mood , eats well, sleeps well and studies, it means that the child's adaptation is over.

We hope that our tips will help your child enter the new world of school adventures plus learning with pleasure!